Confidence is probably one of the most important topics in regards to personal development. I believe that most success comes down to confidence. Over 300+ episodes in to the Build Your Network podcast, I’ve gotten priceless information from some of the biggest names in business regarding this very topic.

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Here are three key tips to becoming more confident. 

Record Yourself (Chris Harder)

“Set up your iPhone, flip it around, hit record, and just practice speaking. Practice introducing yourself. Practice sharing a good idea you have and play it back. Look at yourself and say, ‘Is this somebody that I would be excited to meet?’ ‘Is this somebody whose idea I would consider?’ ‘Is this somebody who I would partner with in business or in life?’ If not, take a look at why and then try it again. Do the whole exercise over and over and over again until you know that you are coming across with confidence and good posture.

Another great way to take that step one step further – or to even start – is to do more Instagram stories. You know, the stories where you’re recording your life and ‘Here’s what I’m doing today,’ and ‘Here’s where I’m going,’ and ‘Here’s my workout.’ When you put yourself out there on social media, in video form, you’re exercising that muscle of coming across authentic and genuine with good confidence. 

‘When you put yourself out there on social media, in video form, you’re exercising that muscle of coming across authentic and genuine with good confidence.’

At first it will be scary. The next time you do it it’ll be scary. And the next time you do it, it’ll still be scary, but a little bit less. And then it starts getting easier and easier and easier. Before you know it, you find yourself not caring and acting like a total nerd on Instagram stories or Snapchat or Facebook live because you just stop caring.”

Resist Arrogance (Aubrey Marcus)

Arrogance is really an insecurity. It’s projecting something that you’re not actually in belief that you possess. It’s covering for something that you don’t know about yourself.

Put yourself into the places where you’re getting tested. Whether that’s psychedelic medicine or open relationships or the savage workout or the coldest ice bath you can, or the hottest sweat lodge – safely, of course, be mindful of that – but putting yourself in situations where you are testing yourself and opening your voice and being vulnerable to tens of thousands of people.

“Arrogance is really an insecurity.”

It’s hard to be arrogant because you get your ass kicked a lot, you know? And I think that’s really the key. The key is that, ‘Okay, you can think what you want about me. I know what I’ve done and I really respect what everybody else has done because we’ve all had our own journeys and our own challenges.’

Rely on a Process (David Meltzer)

The more successful you are, the more opportunities that you have. So you have to figure out, ‘How do I qualify things?’ How do I prioritize them?’
I’m consistently developing more and more ways that I can qualify what I want to do.

I have a very simple qualification process:

1. How much money can I make?
2. How many people could I help?
3. How much fun – on a scale – will I have?
   

‘Don’t negotiate the last penny, always be fair, and don’t do business with dicks.’

And so the initial qualification is, I take into account all the dependent/independent variables and try to determine, ‘Is this big enough for my time? Is this big enough for the amount of people I can help? Am I going to enjoy it?’ And you know, that’s where the famous negotiation line comes in, ‘Don’t negotiate the last penny, always be fair, and don’t do business with dicks.’ That falls right in line with ‘make a lot of money, help a lot of people, and have a lot of fun.’

What do you think? What’s the best piece of advice that WASN’T given here?