At the end of the day, we are only responsible for ourselves and our internal experience. Today we’re looking inward with Tucker Max, Co-Founder of Scribe Writing, and author of I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell. Tucker’s life hadn’t always been easy. Going through many negative experiences, he left his destructive lifestyle behind and pursued his affinity for writing. Years of rejection after rejection from publishers, he broke through and has since been labeled best selling author of several titles. Today, Tucker is on a mission to unlock the wisdom of the world by helping executives and entrepreneurs turn their ideas and messages into books.
Let’s dive right into Tucker’s wild story and learn about a better way to live.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 11:28] Opening Segment
- I introduce today’s guest, Tucker Max
- What Tucker is known for
- Tucker gives some background on his life growing up
- Lived in Kentucky
- A miserable time with a broken family
- Good at school
- Grew up playing basketball in Lexington
- Able to fit into any group
- Tucker’s time at a law firm
- Emotionally disconnected
- Just following the typical life structure
- Fired after two weeks
- Tucker talks about his time working for his dad
- About Tucker’s dad
- Fired by his dad
[11:29 – 17:35] There is an Audience
- Tucker talks about finding his affinity for writing
- Sent his content out to publishers
- Rejection on a personalized level
- Started a blog on his own
- Tucker’s first book
- Written 2002 then came out 2006
- Bottomed out at 900 copies then came back up
- Found an audience by being funny and current
- Insights on writing something good
- The people who find value in it
- Just putting in work isn’t good enough
- Work to resonate with people
[17:36 – 36:07] There Has to Be a Better Way
- Tucker shares about his life post first book release
- A movie made from his life
- Wrote three more books
- Wildly successful having everything you could ever need
- Still not happy
- Getting into personal development
- Tucker shares his time in psychotherapy
- The overwhelming nature of meditation
- Changing the game
- Processing the trauma
- Finding happiness by dealing with the trauma
- Tucker’s life now
- Father and husband
- Secure attachments
- The effect of keeping in your emotions
- Your body doesn’t forget the fight or flight
- The animal analogy
- The problem of religion
- Internalized experienced versus the externalized
[36:08 – 50:01] Closing Segment
- Who you know or What you know?
- The what doesn’t matter, just the who
- Tucker’s definition of success
- The internal and external
- Advice for people having trouble with relationships
- We are a bunch of traumatized monkeys
- Get off the ship
- Ask how am I showing up?
- How are you healing yourself?
- Take full responsibility for yourself
- You don’t have a relationship problem, you have a ‘you’ problem
- Don’t adopt a victimhood lifestyle
- What would you want to be your primary message?
- Getting rid of the virus of victimhood
- Complete radical responsibility for yourself
- Everything starts at home
- The RanDoM ROuNd
- Resources and links below
- Final words
Tweetable Quotes:
“There’s one definition of good: does this resonate with people? Do they get value from it? Do they want to engage with it? Do they want to share it?” – Tucker Max
“Having a map of Manhattan doesn’t really tell you what Manhattan is like, you kinda gotta walk the island… Knowing what you feel and feeling what you feel are totally different things.” – Tucker Max
“My definition of success is doing things that matter with the people I love.” – Tucker Max
“All growth and all healing starts with taking full responsibility for yourself.” – Tucker Max
Resources Mentioned:
- ScribeWriting
- I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell
- The Body Keeps the Score
- The Drama of the Gifted Child
- The Jesus of the Bible
You can connect with Tucker on LinkedIn, Twitter, and Instagram. Visit www.tuckermax.com/ to learn more about his space and get more awesome content.
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